Confidence is talked about in almost every attraction guide, website, article, and publication. Why? Because confidence is the one element that matters in every single stage of the dating process and when it isn’t there, you will fail. Confidence shows that you are strong, able to take care of yourself, and not some whiney, needy guy that is going to drag her down. Girls don’t like men with low self-esteem because they feel like they have to support them too much. Women should be the ones that are supported in relationships, so developing your confidence is a must.
This was the single biggest lesson I learnt in going from a nervous shy guy to where I am today.
Women know when men aren’t confident. We’ve all tried faking it, and it never works out. The ladies know what’s up and they will be able to sense if we’re not actually confident of ourselves and our abilities. You have to understand that you should BE confident at all times. Even if you have to change your perceptions and how you view yourself, so be it. Are you the man that you want to be? If not, what do you need to eliminate? Get rid of the elements that you don’t like and be confident in the parts of yourself that you do appreciate. Confidence and masculinity go hand-in-hand, so make sure that you are bold, masculine, and sure of yourself at all times. If you can show her that you KNOW what you’re doing, she will be much more attracted to you. Note, I said masculine and not macho. There is a difference and I’ll talk about that in another article.
Confidence gives you the chance to own your power and take her off the pedestal. You will lead, and the hot women will follow. It’s natural for a woman to be taken in by a confident man and when you let her rule the roost, you will either be miserable or she will go looking for a man who can take charge. You need to develop your own type of confidence that isn’t too arrogant, and that allows you to be relaxed when you are saying things that would normally make you nervous or that you simply wouldn’t say.
To be confident, you have to get rid of unreasonable fears. You have to believe that you are worthy of the hot women that you want and you should be able to go out and take what you want whenever you want it. When you are properly confident, the issue won’t even exist anymore. It will simply come naturally. Because you are confident, that trait becomes irrelevant and allows you to focus on scoring the dates, and phone numbers that you want.
How can you tell when you’re confident in yourself? As soon as you don’t think about it anymore, you’re ready. Confident men have no reason to think about this issue because they are already where they need to be. Until you get to a place where you aren’t questioning yourself and your confidence, you haven’t arrived at the place where you need to be. Rule your game with confidence and you will be successful every single time.